I find myself saying ‘everything happens for a reason’ way too much, so I sat down and tried to figure out why I feel so comfortable stating that phrase to myself and others, so much of the time. Well, guess what? It helped me understand myself more and made me better able to explain my outlook on life. We never stop learning about ourselves when we continuously wonder and explore why do we do the things we do. It is always hard to explain to others the way you think, but bare with me as I attempt to explain my self-exploration results and try to make sense of it all.
First of all, everything happens for a reason. I firmly believe that I have been through specific experiences for a reason and they only make sense to me later. It might be seconds, days or even years before you realise the significance of why something happened in your life, but trust me, there’s always a reason. 
Maybe you’re religious and you already have some kind of aligned belief to what I am referring to, but I ask you to take a deeper look and really try to live those moments where you make sure to tell yourself that everything, no matter good or bad, happens for a reason. Maybe you are not religious and don’t believe in anything similar. That’s totally fine, but keep an open mind, observe yourself, remember how things turned out in the end, how sometimes you wished for something, but the moment it never came true was the moment you realised you never wanted it. I am sure we all have had some of those ‘a-ha’ moments where we realised that we might not have really wanted or needed what we were trying to get, because we only understand it later on. Don’t you see, it’s a cycle. If you consistently train your mind to believe that everything happens for a reason, you may have a better chance at living a happier and healthier life. How? By being positive.
As humans, our minds and bodies deal with our emotions and we all know how we don’t love getting angry or being sad. Anger and sadness are only two of the emotions that trigger stress, anxiety, more anger, more sadness, possibly depression and so much more. Our bodies feel these triggers and the negativity takes over. We all know how there are numerous studies relating and directly linking positive thinking with improved mental health, leading to improved physical health. So why doesn’t everyone seem to fully comprehend the power of positivity? The power of our mind to be able to change our mindset, the way we think and the way our body reacts? The benefits behind positive reinforcement and trying to making sense of what might not?
Maybe not every single thing happens for a reason but why not tell ourselves that? Why not learn to be optimistic, to continue with our lives no matter what we face and believe that it is all for the best? It’s simple, have faith in positivity and let it change your life.

* The author is a wellness advocate and influencer @keys2balance.