Whether you are entering into a new relationship or you have been in one for long, focusing on unnecessary details won’t help you. As long as your partner and you enjoy the time you spend together, nothing else should matter. So, what concerns should matter in relationships? Here is a quick list of things you shouldn’t obsess yourself about.
1. Your partner’s appearance
Have you found a man or woman to love? Why should your friends’ opinions concerning his/her looks matter? Dwelling too much on your partner’s looks could mean missing out on other attributes that make them great. So, stop focusing on physical details like biceps, hair colour, height, and so on. Finding someone who fits all your physical specifications will be a tall order. If you find one, he or she may not be great in other aspects.
2. Whether you are a like
Having a few things in common with your partner doesn’t necessarily make you guys make a great couple. For example, the fact that both of you like hiking during the weekend doesn’t mean you will be great together.
So overlook the details. If you have a few things in common, you can learn the rest as the relationship picks up. Your relationship will be more interesting if you accept and embrace your differences.
3. Their background
What’s your partner’s political persuasion? What culture do they come from? These aren’t things to worry about. Of course, having a common worldview and beliefs may make it easier for you to relate with each other. However, it will limit your potential for growth. That’s why you should open up your world by being open to people from different backgrounds. As long as you respect each other’s background, you should have a fulfilling relationship.
5. Financial Security
It feels great when you can pay off your bills and smoothly run your household. That’s why money is important in relationships. However, having too much of it doesn’t mean you will have a better relationship. So, stop thinking that having financial security will make the two of you grow closer together. Build your relationship in other ways so that you have non-financial reasons to be together.
6. Your partner’s occupation
You don’t have to be with a CEO of a large organisation to be happy. Your partner could be a normal employee and still make you happy more than you could ever imagine. What matters is that your relationship is based on care and trust for each other. If you still find time to be together after long working hours, then you were meant for each other. Don’t let your opinion about his or her job cloud your judgment.
If you want your relationship to grow, stop focusing on the details. Simply love!
* The author is a consultant in Public Relations and Personality Types. Instagram: @Tipsbyhalahill
Hala Bader al-Humaidhi
